Are we the good guys?
Every side has a story in which it is right. What happens when the evidence begins to disagree?
“Of course we are.”
Certainty is comfortable. It gives us a side, a story, and someone else to blame. These inquiries begin where that comfort starts to fail.
Read slowly. Make a choice. Then stay long enough to hear what your answer leaves out.
START WITH ONE ORDINARY MOMENT ↓Does evil require hatred,THE CRUELTY OF ORDINARY PEOPLE ↗
or merely the willingness
to look away?
Your friend reverses into a parked car and drives away. Later, he tells you what happened. He is frightened he cannot afford the repair and asks you to give him until tomorrow morning to speak to the owner himself. The owner is outside now, asking whether anyone saw what happened.
No score. You can reconsider.
One person wants a chance to put things right. Another wants to know who damaged his car. You may be looking for a way to honour both.
What would you need to know before you could choose?
A reason can be sincere and still leave someone hurt. Caring about your friend does not make the owner disappear. Caring about the owner does not make your friend stop being your friend.
This is where the question begins: not with which kind of person you are, but with what you choose to do for the people involved.
These inquiries begin in the same place:
a decision with another person on the other side.
Every side has a story in which it is right. What happens when the evidence begins to disagree?
“Of course we are.”
Dignity, trust, and the conditions we attach to both. Five encounters with the limits of your respect.
Before they prove anything. Before you know their name.
Who do you betray when the people you love do something wrong? Follow the fault line between belonging and agreement.
“After everything we’ve done for you.”
“But I didn’t
do anything.”
Listen to the sentence twice.
First as a defense. Then as a description.
Does evil require hatred, or merely the willingness to look away?
ENTER THE INQUIRYBefore you go, return to the person
still standing outside.
Your friend is waiting. So is the owner. You can return to their situation when you are ready.
RETURN TO THE FIRST QUESTION ↗